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April 1st - 7 min read
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Working through your low self-esteem
Low self-esteem can impact various aspects of your life, whether it is with your personal or professional relationships. Many people find that having low self-esteem is connected to feeling shame, guilt, self-doubt, or inadequate.
The best way to overcome these feelings is by talking with a therapist.
If you live in Toronto or GTA, Talk Therapy with Vera is a great resource to help you boost your self-esteem. Vera can show you a new way to view and talk to yourself.
Be sure to keep reading for our guide on how you can boost your self-esteem, and consider Talk Therapy with Vera.
Recognize Your Negative Self-Talk
No matter what you do daily, there will be one person you always talk to, and that’s yourself. We’re impacted in so many ways by how we talk to ourselves. It can change how we feel and what we do.
Most of our thoughts tend to be harmful to many of us because we haven’t mastered the idea of positive self-talk. You’ll find that you can use different strategies to help you get started on a path to positive self-talk.
Become Aware of Your Thoughts
Sometimes we aren’t even aware of how much negative self-talk that we do per day. The best way to overcome your negative self-talk is by becoming aware of it.
Start a day by analyzing each of your thoughts. Do you notice yourself saying things like, “I can’t do that, or “they don’t like me?” These statements are negative talk, and that is what you’re trying to change.
When you start to notice your negative thoughts, it is a great time to stop these in their tracks. Become aware of the negative things you say to yourself means you can start to change the way you think.
One of the best ways to start improving your mental health and boost your self-esteem is through journaling. It can help you to become mindful and accept the things that happen in your life.
One of the best ways to improve your self-talk is through journaling and writing down your negative thoughts that you have throughout the day. Statements like, “I’ll never get that promotion,” or “I don’t look good in that.” Anything that is putting yourself down should be written down in your journal.
You can go through these statements and figure out how they can impact you. Once you start analyzing your thoughts in your journal, then you can make this a daily routine.
After recognizing your negative self-talk, you need to challenge it. Figure out how you can take your negative self-talk and turn it into something positive.
It will become more natural when you start to challenge how you talk to yourself. For example, if you didn’t get a promotion at work, it doesn’t help to beat yourself up. Instead, try shifting your thoughts to “I’m proud of putting myself out there because I took the courage to apply for the promotion.”
When you’re having a bad day, a great positive way to think is, “Tomorrow is another chance to try again with the lessons I’ve learned from today.”
Most of your negative self-talk is something that you would never say out loud to another person. So why would you say this to yourself?
Find the Root Cause of Your Self-Esteem
Talk Therapy with Vera can help you in many different ways, like finding where your self-esteem issues come from. Vera can support you with navigating how these root causes can impact your self-esteem.
You might be wondering what the significance is of finding the origin of your low self-esteem, and that’s because it could be other issues you need to work through.
Your low self-esteem could come from feelings such as being unlovable or useless. Vera can help you to connect the dots of your issues and encourage you to work through them.
Working with these root causes can help you to develop your high self-esteem overtime. When you are healed, your self-esteem will go through a significant boost as well.
It can be helpful to see why you were affected by these issues in your past. You’ll see and understand how your past can lead you to who you are today.
Anxiety, depression, and recent trauma can affect your low self-esteem and poor self-image. You’ll find how Talk Therapy with Vera can be beneficial to your mental health.
Learn How to Be Compassionate With Yourself
Many of us with low self-esteem have in common that we don’t have any compassion for ourselves. Vera works with individuals who suffer from low self-esteem and are not self-compassionate.
Showing self-compassion means being kind to ourselves all the time. Even when we notice something negative that we don’t like.
Self-esteem and self-compassion go hand-in-hand with feeling good about ourselves. You’ll find that people who can show positive self-compassion have better life satisfaction, emotional intelligence, and social connections.
Yet, these two are also a bit different! When you show compassion for yourself, you don’t have to feel better than someone else to feel good about yourself. Self-esteem can be a way that we compare ourselves with others.
How can you start showing compassion for yourself? Start by embracing kindness for yourself. You need to be able to experience your emotions as they come and accept them. As we talked about previously, stopping negative self-talk is a great way to start showing yourself compassion.
Mistakes are another thing that we’re all destined to make as humans. Being compassionate means that you’re able to forgive yourself for the mistakes that you make and move on from them.
Learning and growing from mistakes is a huge part of self-compassion and evolving as a person. Vera can help guide you on your path to self-compassion.
Having self-compassion also comes along with great benefits for your life in general. You’ll find that once you can master self-compassion, you might start to feel less depressed, a greater sense of happiness, and feel good about yourself overall.
The best way to be self-compassionate is to know no one is perfect. You’re worthy of kindness and love.
Setting Goals to Improve Your Life
One of the best things that Talk Therapy with Vera can do for you is to help you set your goals for improvement. Each therapy session is going to be different and unique.
Vera will work with you on your low self-esteem and other traumas that you’ve endured. She will look at the priorities that you have in your life and figure out how to reach them by setting goals.
After you figure out your triggers and analyze your negative self-talk. One way to learn is to give yourself compassion; you’ll see that it will be easier to start achieving these goals. The future you’ve always imagined and thought you could never reach will start to become more of a reality.
You will feel fulfilled when you begin to notice how your goals are achieved. This can help boost your self-confidence and give you a higher sense of self-esteem. It can improve your negative self-talk because you will start to believe in yourself.
Are You Ready for Talk Therapy?
Many signs might mean you’re ready to schedule your first Talk Therapy session with Vera. Each person is different in knowing when they’re ready to seek help. Yet, there are a few ways you can know if you’re ready.
Ask yourself these questions to find out if you are ready to reach out to Vera to help with your low self-esteem.
• Do you experience mood swings?
• Are you often overwhelmed, angry, or feel like someone is taking advantage of you?
• Do you feel alone or have no idea how you can help yourself?
• Is it hard for you to start, complete, or accomplish projects? It can be during school, work, or even at home.
• Are you constantly trying to change the way you act around other people so that they will like or agree with you?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, most likely you already know you’re ready to get help. The next step is reaching out to Talk Therapy with Vera who can support you to get on track on improving your mental health.
Boost Your Self Esteem With Talk Therapy
There are so many ways to turn your self-esteem around. Talk Therapy with Vera is a great way to get started boosting your self-esteem and making better choices on positive self-talk.
If you live in Toronto or GTA, you can sign up for a complimentary consultation. Talk Therapy with Vera offers a 15-minute consultation, so you can decide if therapy is the right direction for you.
Be sure to sign up today so Vera can schedule your phone consultation right away.